If it’s not said enough, let me say it again- it’s EXTREMELY imperative to be careful with whom you surround yourself with and whom you open up to. I’ve really been reevaluating and thinking about people’s true intentions. You’re allowed to be friends with someone without telling them everything that’s going on in your life. I think I’m starting to realize this now more than ever. I’ve always thought that the way you stay close to someone is to open up with one another on any and every aspect of your life. However, you can be close to someone without letting them know all of your business (crazy, I know). I get close to people quickly, and I become an open book right off the bat- that’s definitely not a good thing. Not everyone has the right intentions with you, and it’s really hard to distinguish who’s really there for you and who isn’t. They can come in the shape of a “good friend”, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that that “good friend” is genuinely happy for you. Also, just because they have your back in front of you, doesn’t mean they’ll have your back when you’re not around or when you’re not on good terms with them (another thing to keep in mind). So then why open up to someone that can’t defend you in your absence? Clearly they don’t deserve to know you like that- your weaknesses, vulnerabilities, insecurities. That can easily become their ammunition. Staying low-key is the KEY to living a more stress-free life. People switch up so fast nowadays. Knowing you’re cool with someone one day and the next day you’re not is beyond bizarre to me. Now this person, who’s basically become a stranger, knows more than they need to about your life. If they’re a decent human being they’ll keep your business to themselves. But sometimes people aren’t decent… I’m not saying not to open up to anyone ever. I’m just saying, be careful and cautious of whom you do open up to. Know with 100% certainty that they have your back, because the last thing you’d want is for them to stab it.
-love Sof
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